I know you’re probably thinking, “What the heck do curls have to do with Spirit?”.  Well, keep reading and I’ll get there.  You see, I came into this world with curly hair, thanks to my dad’s genes.  However, being my mother’s only child born with curly hair, my mom had no idea how to manage my tangled knots, let alone how to brush them.  French braids and pony tails became common hairstyles through my childhood.  They kept my frizzy strands from knotting up while I slept and out of my face while I played.  They also allowed for more days to pass between the dreaded brushings.

I grew up in a household that didn’t understand how to take care of my crazy waves but, it’s not their fault.  My mother did the best she could with what she knew.  She even took me to a hair stylist that had curly hair, thinking she would know how to cut and style my curls.  Long story short, she did not.  I ended up with the worst haircut of my life.  So, I gave up searching for someone to help me understand my curls and I spent my young adult life avoiding them.  I cut my own hair for years, keeping my curls too short to cause me any bother.

Then I began to grow and nurture my own family.  I was telling my little ones that they were perfectly made and everything about them was intentional and beautiful.  That’s when I started to reflect those thoughts on myself.  I started to see the things I grew up believing to be burdens and curses as blessings and beauty.  

My curls weren’t a hassle, they were just misunderstood.  I needed to take the time to get to know my curls.  I needed to try new methods and practice them to see what worked with my curls.  I needed to seek out the knowledge for myself instead of waiting for someone to show up and just give it to me.  After some research and hunting down, I was able to find a couple of curl specialists who have taught me a few things over the years.  Between my research, practicing and seeking out help, I now understand my curls better than ever.

I realized recently that my spiritual abilities are very much like my curly hair.  I grew up in a family that didn’t understand them, through no fault of their own.  My whole life I thought they were a burden and even a curse. (See what I did there.) 

In my early twenties my grandmother came into my life for a short period of time before she passed away.  However, my grandmother did show me that I wasn’t alone and there were others in the world like me.  So, I knew there must have been people to learn from.  

I knew I had to try new methods of dealing with what I now understood as my spiritual abilities.  I had to practice them and see what worked for me.  I had to go out and seek the knowledge for myself so that I could have a better understanding my abilities and myself.  I couldn’t wait for someone to come to me.  

With the hope my grandmother gave me, I was able to find other Mediums in the world that I could connect with.  They taught me a few things over the years.  Between my own research, a whole lot of practice and seeking out help, I now understand my spiritual abilities better than ever.  However, just like with my curly hair, my gifts are always changing and evolving and I can always learn more.

Whether it’s your curly hair or your spiritual abilities, please know that you are given special gifts at birth and throughout your life.  You can see them as burdens or embrace them as beauties.  The choice is yours and no one else’s.  

Tips for My Curly Haired Friends

• It’s best to brush your hair right before you wash it.

• Brush in small sections from the very ends/bottom and slowly working your way up.  

• You don’t always have to wash your hair every day.

• There are many different types of curly hair.

• Not all curly hair products are right for your curly hair.

• Fine curly hair needs lighter products like mousse and sprays.

• Try adding product to your hair when it’s still very wet.

• Diffuse your hair or air dry.

• Protect your hair from heat styling with heat protectant products.